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Date Night Ideas

There is always excitement in the air at the beginning of a new relationship. Spending time together is a fresh experience; familiar things we've done in the past become novel and thrilling. But as relationships age, other stresses in life eclipse the simple pleasures of enjoying each other's company. We tend to fall into routines, perhaps even taking the other person for granted.

It's important to keep the relationship healthy by allowing yourselves the time to rediscover each other and renew the passion. Courting each other all over again is a great way to keep the fires burning. If you're stumped on what to do, our date night ideas should set you in the right direction.

Getting Outside
Avoid couch potato syndrome like the plague; it will only breed apathy in your relationship. Sitting in front of the TV night after night is an easy enough rut to fall into.
Here are some fun and unique date ideas to get you both off the sofa and into the great outdoors.{relatedarticles}

Classic dinner date re-imagined - Instead of eating at the local pub you've been to a million times before, try an adventurous ethnic eatery. Korean BBQ or Brazilian churrascaria, for instance, offer a truly interactive dining experience.

Dust off those dancing shoes - Busting a move on the dance floor is a great way to let off steam. Too shy or uncoordinated to shake it? Take a dance class together. Become cinephiles together - Bored of the same old dinner and a movie? Skim the local listings for film festivals showing shorts, documentaries, or indie films. Or go the drive-in and make out like teenagers.


Join the gym - Having a workout partner will motivate and challenge you. Keeping yourselves in decent shape will also tell the other you are still trying to look hot for them. Surprise him - Sectrely plan something you both enjoy doing, but maybe haven't had the time to do in a while. Or pretend it's his birthday and set up a date that is all about him. He may just return the favor. Smarten up - Visit a museum, science center, zoo, planetarium, art gallery, and expos like food and wine shows and consumer electronics conventions. Learn something new and discuss your impressions.{relatedarticles} Make it a staycation - Get a newfound appreciation of your hometown. Check out touristy activities in your locale and take lots of pictures. Keep an eye on local events - Festivals and fairs will come to your location, so don't miss the midway games, Ferris wheel rides, and other exhibitions that that will only be around for a limited time. Live entertainment - Watch a play at the theatre, check out a live band perform at a bar, giggle at stand-up comedy shows, attend a sporting event, or go see a poetry reading.


Knock it off the bucket list - Go skydiving or zip-lining, take a hot air balloon ride, try parasailing, participate in indoor rock climbing. Indulge in any one of the things you've always wanted to do. Here's your chance! Go bowling - Bowling is an old-school activity with a great casual vibe. The two of you can have a beer or a slice of pizza while engaging in a friendly competition. Just about every town has a bowling alley. It's a low-stress environment, so your date is guaranteed to feel relaxed and comfortable, which is important. Dating on a budget
You don't have to break the bank to spend some quality time with each other. The emphasis here is not what you do, but whom you are doing it with. Take a hike - Put on some good walking shoes and explore the natural wonders of the scenic routes in your community. Pack a lunch and make a whole day of it.{relatedarticles} Pretend you're rich - Put on your fancy clothes and test-drive your dream car, go to an open house showing, or attend a swanky auction. You won't have to spend any money and will get a rare glimpse into how the other half lives. Be spontaneous - Make no plans. Take a walk or a drive together and see where the day takes you.


Take a free tour - Many factories and production facilities offer free tours with samples. Learn a little something about the manufacturing process and get a chance to taste some gourmet wines, beers, cheeses, and chocolates. Play Bingo - Invest in a couple bingo dabbers and have some fun listening and paying attention. If you have the good fortune to yell out "Bingo," you can spend your winnings on a nice meal afterwards. Go to the beach - Bring a Frisbee, pack a picnic and watch the sunrise or sunset.{relatedarticles} Be kids again - Bowling, mini golf, batting cages, driving range, arcades, and billiards are pretty cheap activities that are fun for any age. Same goes for snowball or water gun fights. Staying home
Maybe you both work all day long and the last thing you want to do afterwards is go back out into the world. Here are some romantic date ideas for the homebodies out there.


A bubble bath for two - Unwind after a long day with a sweet and sexy bubble bath. Light some candles, play some soft music, pour some champagne, scatter some rose petals, and make an evening of cleansing each other. Play a board game - Go from bored to board. Games like Jenga, Scrabble, Twister, Chess, Battleship and Trivial Pursuit will engage you in a little flirtatious trash talk. Prepare a meal together - Plan a sumptuous meal side by side. Incorporate ingredients you both enjoy, experiment with new flavor combinations, and breathe new life into an ordinary task.{relatedarticles} Improve your home - Tackle a home improvement project. Perhaps a room needs a fresh coat of paint, you've been considering making the house more energy efficient, or you've been dreaming of that walk-out deck. Completing these projects with each other will be satisfying and give you a sense of accomplishment. Role-play - Don something sexy and explore your deepest fantasies in tandem. Push each other's limits and be open to new experiences.


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How to Spot a Player

You finally met the guy of your dream: he's handsome, smooth, assertive and very likeable. He always says the right things and has all the qualities you are looking for in a man. But you may have noticed him behaving differently lately.

If you think something is wrong, you may be right. Your guy may be a player. A player is a guy who is only interested in you for one thing: sex. Then, when something better comes along (such as a prettier woman), he's done with you. Here are some ways to identify a player.

  • He displays a particular body language. He'll wear a smirk instead of a smile. He'll strut with a swagger and roll his shoulders forward. These characteristics mean he's on the prowl for a new woman to fall prey to his charms.{relatedarticles}
  • If he sees you for the first time and is interested in you, he'll immediately get too close and invade your personal space. Or if he sees you catching his eye from afar, he'll just stare at you for a while instead of glancing at you and then looking away, like most single men do when they catch the eye of a pretty lady. If his behavior seems a little strange or pushy, then he's most likely trying to play you.
  • He always seems to focus on anything else but you. If he doesn't seem to be paying to attention, it's because something (or someone) else caught his eye. His wandering eyes are surveying the area in search of pretty ladies.
  • He has all the player paraphernalia. You like his flashy car, designer underwear and expensive watch, do you? That's why he bought it. He knows this stuff will attract the ladies and hopefully increase his chances of having sex.
  • He displays feminine characteristics - wears lots of jewelry, has his nails perfectly manicured, focuses a lot on his hair or is always primping in a mirror. This type of guy obviously cares about himself too much - so much that he won't have time to love you sincerely.{relatedarticles}
  • He calls or texts you in the late hours - typically after 11 p.m. You may think it's sweet, but really - why not talk to you during normal daytime hours? If you only hear from him at night, it's because he's only looking for one thing: sex. He's looking for a booty call, and you can bet that you're not the only girl he's calling or texting.
  • He has more female friends than male friends. If every time you go somewhere, all the ladies know him by name, then that is a huge red flag. That means he's been around and has secured the title of player. Run away from this dude!
  • If he does have male friends, he will act totally different. He will pretend he doesn't know who you are or act like the biggest jerk. You gave him what he wanted (or maybe you didn't - good for you!), and now he doesn't care about you or pretends you don't exist. Whatever. You don't need this loser anyway.
  • He acts like the nicest person in the world. He's very smooth and always knows the right things to say. He'll continue the act until you give him what he wants (sex), and then you'll see his true self. Don't waste your time. If he sounds too good to be true, he most likely is. Move on before he breaks your heart.
  • He only talks to you about physical things and intimacy (sex, kissing, etc.). If a booty call is all he's thinking about, then it's time to move on. He doesn't care about your life. He doesn't want a serious relationship with you. He's just using you for your body.{relatedarticles}
  • He doesn't want to hang out with you, or if he does, he cancels at the last minute. He only wants to be with you if you're going to be intimate with him. If he cancels at the last minute, he's likely found someone else to sleep with. Let her have him!
  • He no longer contacts you. If you slept with him, the relationship is likely over because he got what he wanted. If he does call you, it's for sexual purposes only. Or he may appear and disappear for days or weeks at a time. If you don't ever hear from him again, it's because he's already moved on to his next "victim."
  • He always has his phone with him. This is because he can't leave it anywhere for fear that you might get a hold of it and find phone numbers or messages from the other girls he's been with. If he seems to be too overprotective of his phone, or he is always texting or calling others instead of spending time with you, then you know he's got other women on the mind.
  • He makes slip-ups regarding information. If he seems to be forgetful - doesn't know what you do for a living (after you've already told him 10 times), can't seem to remember your favorite food, or worse yet, forgets your name, then you have a player on your hands. He also may keep telling you the same things over and over again. That's because he can't keep his women straight. Run straight for the door and away from this fool!{relatedarticles}
  • He has his place where he takes all the ladies. It might be a dark corner of a bar or a nice romantic restaurant. You may think it's just him being romantic, but it's just a ruse to get you in the mood for sex. If he takes you somewhere and everyone there knows him by name, it could be because he's a regular and has taken dozens of women there.

If your guy exhibits any of these traits, run as far away from him as you can. Being involved with a player will only cause unnecessary stress, heartache and sleepless nights. You're too good for him. You need a man who will respect you, love you for who you are and stay committed to you. You won't get that from a player.


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5 Ways to Make Him Want You While You're Gone

Almost every couple has to go through periods of time when they're apart; people have to work, and business trips are just a fact of life for many couples. For some couples, that constant separation can eventually take its toll on the relationship.

We all know that romance is essential for a successful relationship, but just because you are not in the same room as your boyfriend or husband doesn't mean you can't get him hot. Honing your long-distance romance skills can keep the romance alive during the times when you and your partner are apart. But before you start sending him dirty texts, you need to keep a few things in mind.{relatedarticles}

First, you have to respect your partner's boundaries. Being a bit naughty is fun, and it can add some heat to your romance, but if your partner seems uncomfortable, stop and talk about what is OK and what isn't next time you're together.

Second, use common sense. Texting racy photos of yourself to his iPhone in the middle of the day when he's likely to be in a business meeting? Bad idea. The idea is to send him seductive messages that will build up a desire for you like water to a dam that breaks the moment he sees you again. Make him want you more and more throughout the day, but don't get him too hot and bothered during his morning staff meeting.


Sexy Texting

One of the best ways to connect from any place on the planet is with a text message. You can let him know easily that you are having a great time and keep him hot with a few seductive messages.

Remember, men are creatures with very vivid, active imaginations. The trick to long-distance romance is to give him a few hints about how much you look forward to some hot, welcome-back action, rather than just bluntly stating it. Text about your great new tan. Follow up with a text about how much you love the new bikini you bought at the mall and let his brain do the rest.

Long, Lusty Letters

When short bursts like texts on your trip start to feel less like seductive messages and more like teasing that he cannot do anything about, think about switching to email. If you have a partner who is a total romantic, he will really get into the idea of you taking time to step away from your business meetings on a company trip just to remind him that you find him sexy.{relatedarticles}

These letters should strike a perfect balance between talking about your trip and letting him know that you miss him in bed. Too much pining for his hands on your hips starts to sound desperate and sad, two things that should have no place on your vacation or business trip.

Mention things that you see or learn while away, things that make you miss his caress. Describing scents that remind you of him - scents that get you hot, no matter how far apart you may be - will help plant ideas about how you cannot wait to get home, catch that scent and then have your way with him.


Talk Dirty and Flirty

Give him a call and let him know what dirty thoughts you are having every night that he is not there. This will appeal to his ego and remind him that long-distance romance helps rediscover your desires.

Do not worry about being shy when you chat over the phone about his body pressed up against yours, or how your lips are practically quivering with anticipation for that moment when they can explore his body, or how much you are looking forward to having his lips and fingers all over you after setting a land speed record on the drive home from the airport.

If you are not comfortable getting dirty on the phone, then vocally seductive messages may not be the best way for you to spark up your long-distance romance. It may help to just let him narrate your imaginative sexual encounters over the phone, especially when you love how his voice sounds.{relatedarticles}

Teasing with Video Chat

Cameras are practically standard equipment on most laptops and mobile devices these days. That means you can be on separate continents, yet still you can get a rise out of him with your naughty dance moves or revealing vacation wardrobe.

Be sure that this only happens when you are both able to get into it. In other words, trying to have a sexy video chat while one of you is on a train, plane or bus is going to lead to some awkward glances. Plan your sexy video chats around your schedules so that you can go somewhere private, preferably your hotel room. This way, you can do everything you would if you were actually together, short of actually touching. This is a great way to ramp up the lust level beyond seductive messages, as you tease to please while he awaits your return.


Leave a Surprise

A simple way to help you keep him desperately awaiting your return is clever planning. If there is a pair of panties he goes wild over, you can tease him by leaving them under his pillow or in his sock drawer. He will see them and immediately flash to visual memories of how they look hugging your curves.{relatedarticles}

Combine little surprises like this with seductive messages, and he will be sure to keep on wanting you and feeling the long-distance romance, no matter where you go or how long you are gone. Just like your seductive messages and other long-distance romance tricks, however, be sure that you keep it practical. Sticking a thong in his suit jacket pocket, for example, could go horribly wrong if he does not discover the thong until he is in a meeting.

 


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